I would like to preface this addition to my exploration of managing time & energy by saying that I have been working on this type of thing for a long time. Not this way, perhaps, and not nearly to the same effect, but that’s kinda my point. For some people they pick this stuff up and never look back. Me? I need to revisit my lessons repeatedly before they get through the thickness of my skull. That being said, on with the blog…
Periodically I like to (pretend to) get organized. I list out all the things I want to do in day-to-day living and then I look at how they will possibly fit into the actual time available.
Then my shoulder hunches, my eyelid twitches and weird sounds echo from my mouth. Because I end up with a combination of overwhelming and impossible. Cue mental meltdown and failure of whole plan.
Being me, I started doing the same thing this New Year’s. Did I mention I need repeated lessons on things?
But this time, this time I stopped.
I was already feeling anxious and twitchy just by trying to make the list. It isn’t possible to live the life I want in the time I want.
Not in the way I was thinking about it anyway.
Time to simplify! Ah, the joys of simplification.
So instead of squeezing things in and giving everything its time, I realized that my workday evenings generally go in three stages. On any given day what happens in a particular stage is likely to be different, but the stages are the same.
Already my shoulder was coming out of its quasimoto state.
Stage one: Practicality.
Upon achieving the blissful state of “thank gods I’m home”, or even in the semi-blissful state of “I’m headed home”, that is the time for me to do the practical things. If I put them off until later, they will likely never get done (boy have I proven that more times than I care to think of or am capable of remembering!).
So I get home (or on the way home do errands) and cook, eat, tidy, clean, answer email, deal with whatever practical crap needs to get dealt with. Only for an hour, hour and a half max. And then it’s done! Cue happy relaxation music.
Stage two: Physicality
Ah, the joys of my life. Physio is here to stay. Every day is physio, either short or extended depending on what other physical things might happen that day (still in swimming lessons so on those days, much less physio and longer time in this stage). But it’s a do what my body needs time and one of the highest importance things in my world given what happens if I don’t do it.
Eye twitch starts to disappear as I see how this can be easily and practically applied.
Stage three: Mysticality
This is where things get more interesting (read difficult). There are a lot of things I want to do, to accomplish, to experience. I want to write, bead, blog, meditate, ritual, play, talk, etc etc. How to schedule it all in?
Right, make it simple!
These are all things I love to do, and ultimately bring me to a place of spiritual/mystical enjoyment when I look into their depths. They feed my spirit or soul or both. And if I’m doing something that isn’t feeding that greater part of me, then it damned well doesn’t belong in this section. No need to plan specifics, just plan the space and time to do what brings me bliss.
This I can do.
But wait, what about a break? That’s a large part of my 2012 resolution and behavioural change is getting in and really using those breaks to my advantage. Right, so between stage 2 and 3 I take a break. I go out on my balcony, breath fresh air (and sometimes other things), relax and let go. Then I’m prepared to come back in and get into whatever it is that needs to be got into.
So far (yeah, only two days, but a good two days!) so good. And it’s the enjoyment that makes it more likely to continue.
And now, I’m overdue for that break! Buenos noches, amigos!